Let’s be honest, most of parenting is an uphill struggle.
Yes, we love them. Yes, they are cute. Yes, eventually they sleep through (that or you almost die for a few hours each night – whatever, at least your eyes close!).
But mostly it is hard, it is exhausting, it is heartbreaking, it can be humiliating and it is definitely expensive!
Is It Worth It?
That said, this “life sentence” is peppered with wonderful moments that keep you going, moments when you realize that you might actually be winning at parenting in the long run.
Here are a few of my winning at parenting moments from yesterday:
Kids are funny!
They make you laugh. My youngest was “threatening” me this evening because I refused to hand over the iPad that I was actually using! She looked at me sideways, raised her eyebrows (no idea where she got that from) and said :
“I am about to get some tears!”
Ooohhh … scary! 😂 Needless to say my husband and I just burst out laughing. She put in a good effort, but in the end the only tears were from the parents, tears of laughter.
My husband and the girls finished a large packet of crisps without offering me one … not even one! The fact that I don’t even like Salt & Vinegar is not the point, they could have at least offered. Then one of them (I’m not sure which) just threw the empty packet on the floor! On the floor!
I stood up, blocked their view of the T.V. and declared that the foil packet will naturally disintegrate before I pick it up so somebody better do it, and I don’t care who!
My youngest looked me in the eye whilst stepping over it! *Breathe!*; my husband pretended that I was transparent and that he was deaf; and my eldest said
“Sorry mommy, I will help you.”
… and picked it up and took it to the bin. I felt like crying. So she does know where the dustbin is! No guesses who my current favourite is?!
There was the touching moment yesterday when the little sister offered to ‘beat up’ the school bully for picking on her big sister (yes, the irony is not lost on me); followed by the big sister helping the little sister buckle her seat belt in.
I am so proud that they are sisters who actually love each other and put each other first.
It’s these small moments that get you from ‘throwing up for 9 months then surviving birth’ to ‘remortgaging your house to pay for dancing / swimming / art classes!’.
I can’t speak for the future, I’m only six years in, but it’s been a long six years so far!
Long, but worth it.
This little snapshot of my day with my family yesterday is proof that despite the fact that the day is full of hard moments, and it is an uphill struggle, I will forget the difficult moments but these happy, progressive and funny moments are the ones I have chosen to write down, and the ones I will remember.
I also won’t forget the eyeballing and littering, but I might choose not to mention them again.