This is one for the SAHMs.
I have never met a SAHM who takes advantage of the perceived perks of being a SAHM. “Like what?” I hear you ask.
One of the many ‘crimes’ we get labelled with is how much free time we must have to do nothing but catch up on sleep, along with coffee dates, catching up on our favourite day-time TV shows, having our hair and nails done … etc etc
Sure! That’s exactly how it works! (*Sarcasm) NOT!
FYI – I’m NOT talking about stealing your kids halloween sweets, or eating a bag of crisps in the cupboard. That’s just basic survival, something ALL parents do just to get by!
How many SAHMs actually drop their kids at school, go home, crawl back into bed and have a nap?
Not me. Why? Because of the “Mom Guilts”!
A few weeks ago I had two nights in a row with sick kids who couldn’t sleep. Couple that with a touch of insomnia, my inability to switch my brain off before 22.00, two cats who scratch the doors to go out … and come back in … and go out … and come back in … at least FIVE times a night. I’m sure you can understand why I was shattered! Exhausted! A walking mombie!
After dropping my daughters at school, I went home and decided that I was going to forgo the housework and other chores, and have a nap. No one needed me for at least the next three hours, so why not sleep?
I got into bed, I set my alarm (just in case), I lay there, and I really did try. I tried to slow my breathing, to relax my body, to switch off my brain, but NOTHING worked. Not even the numbing exhaustion of motherhood was stronger than the mommy guilts!
Instead of drifting off into la la land, I lay there thinking about the stained shirt I needed to soak, and the fact that the rose bushes needed trimming. I thought about what I was going to cook for dinner that evening and mentally ran through the contents of my pantry cupboard. I thought about my kids, how I was glad they were better and how happy I was that they had been excited to go to school that morning. I thought about my husband, who was at work, working hard, making money so I can be a SAHM and there for the kids without the added stress of a job … aaaannd … what was I doing?
I was taking a nap!!
That did it, I was up and out of the bed quicker than my kids are when they can subconsciously tell that mommy has just drifted off to sleep.
Gets me every time.
What’s your latest mommy guilt?