Im Sorry Mom Apology To My Mother
family, motherhood, Parenting, Stay-at-home-mom

I’m sorry mom!

My mom had two girls, myself and my younger sister. I now have two girls, and as a mother there are certain things you have to put up with and it’s not until you are a mother yourself that you understand just how much your mother did for you, things that she could only possibly have done because she loves you.

So, this is a list of things I want to apologise to my mom for.  Here goes:

Mom, I am sorry for …

  • Making you take out every single little bug that might be floating in the pool before I agreed to get in! I now know that it’s not necessary, they won’t kill me, and that you hated it!
  • Asking you to do my hair in a certain style, but then furiously ripping it out because it’s not what I asked for! I now know you were doing your best as a mom and not as a professional hairdresser, and that perhaps I did not describe it properly or maybe you didn’t have time to create a masterpiece before school.
  • Being ungrateful for the food you put in front of me because it is not what I wanted right then in the moment. I now know that you were doing your best and that maybe we didn’t have what I was expecting, or you didn’t have time to do what I wanted, or you were trying to ensure we ate a balanced diet of healthy food.
  • Not taking better care of my school bag, clothes, shoes, etc. I now know that they cost money and are supposed to be treated with care, not literally dragged through the mud or flung on the floor, kicked, discarded or lost.
  • Fighting bedtime. I now know that if I don’t go to bed on time, I will wake up grumpy and miserable the next day, and that it is the rest of the world, but mostly you who will have to put up with my bad mood which is not fair.
  • Not realising that the most popular kids in school were also the meanest with the least amount of depth of character. I now know that you were right, I barely remember their names and their opinion of me has in no way shape or form affected my life as an adult.
  • Telling you I liked that brand new outfit you spent your hard earned money on, then wearing it once and declaring it ‘ugly’ or ‘stupid’. I now know that clothes are just clothes, you were providing what we needed and that by being an ungrateful brat I was literally wasting your money and disrespecting you.
  • Not respecting the boundaries you created. I now know you were trying to keep me safe both physically and emotionally, not that you were trying to cramp my style or prevent me from having fun and that you were far more aware of the potential dangers than I was  even capable of comprehending.

I could go on, but I won’t.

Needless to say the wheel has turned and now that I am a mother experiencing all of these already with my two girls, it makes me love, respect and appreciate my mother even more than before.

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One last point before I finish up … something else I have learned from my mom:

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Love you mom. xx

UPDATE 16/02/2017: This post has been featured on Sharing The Blog Love Showcase. Please check it out here and visit the other posts who were featured alongside this one. Thanks to Laura at DearBearAndBeany


This post also appears on the Happy New Mum website for which I am a contributing author. You can check it out here, and while you’re there, please check out some of the other awesome inspirational and motivating posts by other moms who are trying to make a difference and be supportive of other new mums.

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26 thoughts on “I’m sorry mom!”

  1. I would have a very similar list. I realise now as an adult and a mum everything that she went through and I appreciate her all the more! x #SharingtheBlogLove

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  2. I also have two girls, and am a twin myself, and I often think about what my mum said to me & what I hear myself saying to my girls now. I now understand so much about how I made her feel with my comments and defiance! #sharingthebloglove

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  3. I love this post! I too remember feeling just like this when I became a mum, you really do see your own parents in a different light once you become one. I can relate to pretty much all of these. So many times I buy Alice clothes that she loves in the shop and then refuses to wear! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

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  4. Having my son was a revelation to me and suddenly I appreciated my mum so much more! All those little things that she did for me growing up and all the little ways that I was so ungrateful for them. And I think the appreciation goes even deeper when I see what a wonderful grandma she is to my son too – she’s absolutely in her element, and so different to how I remember her as a parent (my son gets away with murder compared to me and my sister!!) Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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  5. Isn’t it amazing once we become mothers, we finally realize what our own moms went through? Hopefully, my girls will also realize that one day Today however, I will continue washing chocolate milk covered lego, because that’s what we do :). #globalblogging

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  6. This is a lovely post. I nodded along to all of them. I think in part, being an utter brat is a right of passage, and feel sure that my children will treat me to all this behaviour as they grow. I’m dreading it!!! 😀 Thanks for being an important part of the #bigpinklink

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    1. Thanks for commenting. Very true. I try remember these things when my daughters do them to me. If my mom can survive it, so can I.

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