The age gap between my girls is 23 months apart. When we went for the first scan the Dr actually told us the baby was due on her sister’s birthday. Cue ALL the jokes about “Do you guys only do ‘it’ once a year?” – that got tired real quick! 😂
Actually, if I had gotten pregnant as soon as we started trying for number two it would have been a lot closer, but clearly God knew what he was doing because we had to wait 10 months before I conceived my youngest. I know many many people have children a lot closer than my two are, but I really did struggle to cope with two littles for the first two years. I am not ashamed to admit it.
That said, I love my girls and I wouldn’t change a thing. Okay, that’s a lie. But moving on and accepting my lot in life, here is a list of what I love about the fact that they are only 23 months apart:
- They are close enough in age to have shared interests in terms of toys, TV programmes, friends, etc. and can play together and occupy each other when forced to, isn’t that half the reason to have a second child – company for each other?
- Their birthday’s are close enough that ‘hand-me-down’ clothes are seasonally relevant for the younger child, if they make it (I’m referring to the clothes).
- I only spent 4 years in nappy hell – you know the place where you feel like all you do is wipe your kids’ butts & throw sh*t covered money in the bin to add to the pollution of the planet … those years – I am grateful there were only four consecutive years of this phase. I really don’t think I’d have coped if I’d had to stop and then start again a few years later.
- Pre-Loved baby apparatus such as car-seats, push chairs, bottle warmers etc … there wasn’t really enough time in those nearly two years to reinvent mothering enough for me to have to buy all new equipment in case my latest child was no longer safe in the equipment the elder one survived quite fine in, so it’s almost like an investment for the future when you buy the first time round.
- You’re not really out of the trenches that going back in for round two feels too traumatic, it’s like memory-fat – your body and mind just slip back into it without even really needing to adjust. No, it’s not as fun or exciting, but you have your ‘body memory’ to see you through it.
Here is a list of what is NOT good about about having them less than two years apart!
- They might play together nicely when it suits them, but they’re actually only whispering to each other to lull you into a false sense of security before they erupt into World War 3 over who snatched who’s Barbie shoe without asking!
- Hand-me-downs only work if your younger child is in the ‘idolising her big sister’ stage at the time you re-introduce the ‘new’ clothes. Either she will love it and feel special, or … if her sister’s being a vindictive little brat to her … she might refuse to wear it! Especially if the older child teases the younger child about her having new clothes while they younger child gets old clothes. You can’t explain to a 3 year old that any item of clothing that survived the ‘threenager’ phase of her older sister, is to be treasured, honored, revered, or even put in the box labelled “She hated it and never wore it because it had fairies on it, not pixies – stupid woman! What were you thinking?”
- Their birthday’s are too blady close! 3 weeks! You’re therefore broke for 2 months, and have to deal with 2 x all of it! ALL. OF. IT: The actual birthDAY, the school party DAY, and the party DAY!
- Heaven help you if you were foolish enough for your younger child to be born earlier in the year than your elder child. In my case, the younger is born in mid June, the older is born in early July! That means that for around 3 months prior to the youngest birthday, the elder will despair daily about how life is so unfair, she’s so hard done by and no one loves her! Then the 3 weeks between the two will be filled with the elder rubbing it in the youngest’s face about how it’s her birthday in 3 weeks, and the younger has to wait “a whole year” before her next birthday! (FYI – Girls are b*tches)!
I’ll just leave this one right here:
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