motherhood, Parenting

Let Them See You  

Today’s post is a little reminder to myself really. We spend so much time shielding our kids from the bad things in life. I mean let’s be honest, how many of us switch channels when the news report cuts to the aftermath of a bombing in the Middle East? Me! I do that.

I don’t do it because I don’t care, I do it because I don’t believe my six-year-old needs to see some child with his leg blown off screaming for his parents. My mommy heart struggles with that one. I don’t think she needs to see that right now. That’s my personal opinion for now, and the position I’m taking on that, for now. Sorry, Not sorry.

My post from last week was about my eldest dealing with a bullying issue. Actually, I’m going to rephrase that. We dealt with it, my husband and I dealt with it together. 

For each step in the process of dealing with the issue I allowed the girls to hear me, to be with me or to actually witness me dealing with it.

  • I hope that by hearing me talk to the moms involved that they know I have their back.
  • I hope that by standing with me whilst I speak to the teacher, they (both of them, the youngest was there too even though it wasn’t about her) know that I will deal with the issue in a calm and rational manner.
  • I hope that by me telling them I had been to see the headmaster and then the headmaster taking the time to speak to their class shows them that I followed through, and so did the school.

So what is my point in all this?

I have come to realize that as they are getting older, there are some situations where it is important for them to see me taking a stand on certain issues, such as bullying, such as protecting defenseless animals, such as treating everyone equally, such as conservation.

One of the most important things that I personally took away from the experience was that I am glad my girls got the chance to see me standing up for them, because …

  • They have learnt that I will always stand up for them, because I did.
  • They have learnt that I will take them seriously, because I did.
  • They have learnt to be brave, because I was.
  • They have learnt to trust me, because I trust them.
  • They have learnt the importance of following through, because we did.

I am not a perfect mom, and I’m not even sure that I’m doing it right half the time, but I know that I did the right thing in allowing my daughters to see me standing up for them.

I will always have their back. I will always help them and support them, no matter what, even if they make a mistake …

That’s what my mother did for me and it’s what I will do for them. Even when they are wrong, I will always listen, I will always believe them, and I will still have their back!

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18 thoughts on “Let Them See You  ”

  1. Rock on! I loved this article. It’s especially important for girls to see their parents take a stand on the issues that matter. I read your article right on time because my son was bullied today and I had told him that I will deal with it myself but tomorrow I’ll make sure they stand there and watch. Keep up the good work.

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  2. Yes! Matthew is having an issue at school and I am pursuing it, they need to see us fighting for truth and what is right #ablogginggoodtime

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  3. our daughter is six also, and even though she has always been watching and learning from us, I feel that burden much heavier lately. It seems that she is really starting to develop her personality now and becoming more aware of what’s going on around her #blogginggoodtime

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  4. Nice post. Personally I always wonder what’s the balance between standing up for my children and allowing them to face difficult situations by themselves. It’s no science and I’m sure I make a lot of mistakes. If you haven’t read it, I strongly recommend the book Brave parenting, helped me finding a better balance with that.

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  5. Great post. It is so important to give positive role models to our children and to show them how to behave in situations. If they find themselves in difficulty hopefully they will feel confident to imitate your approach and choose to talk to find a solution. Well done. #ablogginggoodtime

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  6. I agree 100% that it is important for children to see you trust them and therefore they will begin to trust you. Your daughter coming to you and you reacting rationally and standing up for her shows her that in the future; maybe when she’s older. If a situation arises that might be worse, she won’t be afraid to come to you in and confide in you. I love that you also included you husband. It’s important for kids to see that both parents for their back. Great job!

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