Today I am tired. I am tired because I couldn’t sleep last night. The reason I couldn’t sleep last night was because I had a huge case of Mom Guilt! Mom guilt brought on by the fact that I let her down. I let my daughter down, and I didn’t even know it! Continue reading “I Let Her Down, And I Didn’t Even Know!”
If you haven’t heard about the Dooky Cover yet, let me tell you all about this amazing accessory! The Original Dooky Cover will make life easier for you as a parent, and more comfortable for your precious little bundle of joy!
When you welcome your new tiny little human into your life there a million different things that consume you. I’ve written a few advice posts in the past. Continue reading “~WIN~ The Original Dooky Cover Giveaway!”
It’s time for the first InstaRoundUp of 2018! If you were following my blog last year you will be familiar with these, but the idea is to give you some more personal insight into the Top 5 most liked pictures from my Instagram account. I used to do this fortnightly but for this year I plan to only do them at the end of every month.
Without further ado, let’s get this show on the road!
No. 5: I Don’t Diet!
I joked a few weeks ago about how being a PA in my previous life had prepared me for motherhood thanks to my experience of juggling diaries for numerous directors and Heads of Departments! I was wrong! I am now drowning in diary madness so I had no choice but to come up with a plan to manage my family’s schedule!
I thought I was being so clever having my girls close together, but the reality turned out to be very far removed from that ideal! It’s hard work! It’s chaos! It’s never really knowing who needs to be where for what or when! Don’t get me started on the fighting!
What’s the problem?
At the end of last year I was extremely grateful to be given a brand new, 15 kg LG Sapience Smart Inverter washing machine. Grateful is an understatement. I felt blessed and honoured. Thank you LG!
As a Stay-at-home-mom and housewife, I spend a huge amount of time doing the family laundry. Previously I had an 8 kg washing machine which I loved. I won’t lie, that machine worked HARD! Then about four months ago it broke and I had to get it fixed. The replacement parts only came with a three-month guarantee so I felt like I was living on borrowed time.
I can live without any other household appliance, but not my washing machine! I am quite capable of washing my own dishes, or steaming food on the stove instead of the microwave, or even boiling water on a gas braai myself! What I can’t actually do is wash four people’s clothing every day, for the rest of my life. I just can’t. Do you know how many times a day little girls need to change their outfits? School holidays in particular feel like Paris Fashion Week every day! Continue reading “The LG Sapience Smart Inverter Washing Machine: My Saving Grace!”
Anxiety as a mother, is prevalent in our modern society. It’s a real thing. For many people, ‘being a mother’ and ‘anxiety’ seem to go hand in hand. Two years ago I didn’t even know that anxiety was a recognised mental health condition. All I knew was that I hated the monster I turned into when I found myself in certain situations, and it was causing a huge rift between me and my children. The day I noticed that my girls were looking at me like I was a crazy unhinged monster was the day I knew that something had to change, I needed to get a grip!
In recent years, mental health conditions such as Post Natal Depression (PND) have become less of a stigma. People now accept that it is a real thing. How many of us can honestly reflect on those early months of motherhood and realise that we probably needed a little help but were either were too busy to realise what was wrong, or were struggling to admit to ourselves that we weren’t quite coping. I mean, we’re mothers. We’re supposed to be feeling like this right? It’s just tiredness, right?
As someone who struggles with anxiety, I want to start the conversation and I want ‘anxiety’ to be recognised for what it is, a state a mind that we can’t always control. Continue reading “Anxiety As A Mother”
It’s time for what will most likely be my last InstaRoundUp for 2017. I intend to spend the next few weeks enjoying spending time with my family. Blogging is hard work, time-consuming and continuous and I think we can all afford to give ourselves a break every now and then.
Now, let’s be honest, I’m a blogaddict so I’m not going to completely disappear off-line, but I’m definitely going to ‘chill’ for a bit.
The last of these RoundUps was done in November, and December has been so hectic already and we’re only just over half way through. On to the roundup where I provide a little more insight behind the top 5 most liked and popular posts from my Instagram account over the past 20 days: Continue reading “My InstaRoundUp – December 2017”
Earlier this week I put out a collaborative post where I asked a few of my blogging buddies to share with us how they celebrate the festive season and their Christmas traditions with us. I had so many other awesome bloggers want to share their stories that I have enough for another post. Continue reading “Christmas Traditions – Part 2”
As a mother, our job is to prepare our children for life without us. Although we know that this is our job, all the bittersweet milestone we have to deal with takes a piece of our mama heart with them!
As I sit and type this, I find myself reeling with the emotions I am forcing myself to feel and deal with.
Let’s Face It!
For the past week or so I have not had any inspiration to actually write. Then I read a post by a fellow South African blogger, Venean from In the Meantime where she was both celebrating and sad about the fact that her son is self-weaning and it got me all emotional and inspired at the same time. It definitely touched something in my soul that made me rush home and start typing. Continue reading “Bittersweet Milestones”
I realised yesterday that my former life as a PA was the universe’s way of trying to prepare me for my current life of motherhood. Believe it or not, I used to be a Personal Assistant to Directors and Heads of Department in various financial institutions in London and York in the UK.
Being a PA requires certain skills as any Job Advertisement will tell you: Diary management; Travel coordination; Planning; Organising refreshments; Flexibility.
Here’s why my former life as a PA prepared me for my current life of motherhood.
As a mother, you are required to coordinate your children’s school activities, sporting activities, play-dates and social schedules, and this requires vast experience, patience and organisational excellence. This experience was only gained during my time as a PA, and thank goodness I have been able to dust the cobwebs of my mom brain off and call on my previous skills and successfully transfer them into my new life of servitude / motherhood!
Motherhood requires you to be on top of complicated travel itineraries. Whilst the landscape may have changed, and I no longer need to consider flight schedules and train timetables, I do need to plan ahead so that I know how I am going to get them from school, then to this one’s dance lesson, and back in time to take that one to swimming lessons, whilst also remembering to pick this up and drop that off. Motherhood it turns out, is extremely hectic and far more complicated than life as a PA and having to organising the travel requirements for four adults with different schedules that require I take into consideration network rail delays and changes to flight schedules!
Children expect you to ‘jump’ whenever they need refreshments, and in fact, “Mom, I need juice!” is actually far less respectful than “Would you mind getting us some coffees for the meeting at 10.00 please?” One of the duties I hated the most as a PA was getting coffees. Thank goodness the Directors I supported were really lovely, and they understood this, and on the rare occasion when they were extremely desperate for a coffee, they would all but beg me to get them a coffee. (I never said I was a ‘good’ PA!) Little did I know that motherhood would require me to ‘jump’ every two minutes to provide some kind of refreshment or sustenance to the two Directors I actually gave birth to!
Being a PA requires you to be flexible, not just in the hours you work but in being able to make changes to schedules and provide ad hoc support when required. Being a mother, requires that you are so flexible that you may as well be an olympic gymnast. In this one instance, I don’t think being a PA adequately prepared me for motherhood quite as well as the other examples I have given, but it did give me some basic training. Cancelling a train ticket and processing a refund is far easier than having to cancel your entire meticulously planned schedule at a moment’s notice because one of your Directors threw up all over the kitchen floor and you actually attempted to catch it with your bare hands.
What are the benefits I miss about being a PA?
- Having a reason to get dressed in uncomfortable clothes that look nice.
- Going to work, working, and then going home and not working!
- Money – I had some.
- Respect – I had some.
- Talking to adults who you can actually reason with.
- Annual Leave
- Hot Coffee
- Did I mention talking to adults?
- Sleeping at night
Given the choice, what would I change about being a mother?
- Nothing – except the vomit catching! I could do without that.
Thanks for reading. If anyone has any other examples you think I should add to this list, please let me know in the comments below.