Today’s post is a little reminder to myself really, about how important it is to allow our children to see us stand up for them, and to stand up for things that are important.
We spend so much time shielding our kids from the bad things in life. I mean let’s be honest, how many of us switch channels when the news report cuts to the aftermath of a bombing in the Middle East? Me! I do that.
I don’t do it because I don’t care, I do it because I don’t believe my six-year-old needs to see some child with his leg blown off screaming for his parents. My mommy heart struggles with that one. I don’t think she needs to see that right now. That’s my personal opinion for now, and the position I’m taking on that, for now.
My post from last week was about my eldest daughter dealing with a bullying issue. Actually, I’m going to rephrase that. We dealt with it, my husband and I dealt with it together.
For each step in the process of dealing with the issue I allowed the girls to hear me. I allowed them to be with me or to actually witness me dealing with it.
- I hope that by hearing me talk to the moms involved that they know I have their back.
- I hope that by standing with me whilst I speak to the teacher, they (both of them, the youngest was there too even though it wasn’t about her) know that I will deal with the issue in a calm and rational manner.
- I hope that by me telling them I had been to see the headmaster and then the headmaster taking the time to speak to their class shows them that I followed through, and so did the school.
So what is my point?
I have come to realize that as they are getting older, there are some situations where it is important for them to see me taking a stand on certain issues. Issues such as bullying, such as protecting defenseless animals, such as treating everyone equally, such as conservation.
One of the most important things that I personally took away from the experience was that I am glad my girls got the chance to see me standing up for them, because …
- They have learnt that I will always stand up for them, because I did.
- They have learnt that I will take them seriously, because I did.
- They have learnt to be brave, because I was.
- They have learnt to trust me, because I trust them.
- They have learnt the importance of following through, because we did.
Stand Up For Them
I am not a perfect mom. I’m not even sure that I’m doing it right half the time, but I know that I did the right thing in allowing my daughters to see me standing up for them.
I will always have their back and I will always help them and support them, no matter what, even if they make a mistake. That’s what my mother did for me and it’s what I will do for them. Even when they are wrong, I will always listen, I will always believe them, and I will always have their back!