Today's confession … I yell …  A Lot!

I do. I yell at my kids. 

It’s like they don’t respond unless I yell. I can ask them nicely twenty times. Then I can’t take it anymore and I yell! 

Today, they were ignoring me! We were in the car. It’s not like they couldn’t hear my speaking to them in a normal, calm, sane tone of voice. 

Eventually things escalated, they started slapping each other. Someone cried. I was trying not to knock the guy on the wobbly bike over whilst also staying clear of the speeding taxi hurtling towards us! 

So I lost my cool. 

I yelled. 

I yelled so loud I got an instant headache. By the end of my yell it was more of a hysterical scream. 

They look at me like I have completely lost my mind and forever crushed their spirit. 

Who is this crazy woman? Why can’t she just ask us nicely. We were only playing!  No one died! 

Fortunately we were already in the car so no one could hear my hysterical yelling. No one to judge me. 

Living in a town house I’m pretty sure our neighbours hear a lot of yelling and must assume I’m a bad mom. Maybe I am. 

Then again maybe the kids are deaf. Maybe they should just listen to me when I ask nicely and not leave it until I’ve completely lost my sh*t! 

It’s the first day of a 10 day school holiday here in SA and I’m already having a break down. Thank goodness daddy will be home to help over the weekend. How come he only has to raise his voice slightly and they scamper to obey!?! Why? 

Next stop, the wine shop! 

Comments

  1. Author

    Oh how I know what you are talking about! My 13 year old actually admitted to me recently that she waits until I have completely lost my sh!t before doing anything she’s supposed to do–whether that be chores, school work (we school at home), or (GASP) showering. My take-away…. my children want the house to be in chaos. All of the effort I’ve put in making things nice and serene and polite and FUN has been wasted.

    You are not a bad mom for yelling at your kids. Sometimes, that’s the only time kids (many of them–not just yours) will listen. Give yourself a break.

    1. Author

      Actually I don’t feel the least bit guilty. Haha, maybe I am a bad mom! ?

  2. Author

    Have you been peeking in my window!?
    This is what I do too, and then the uncontrollable crying starts… my 3 yr old isn’t the issues, as of yet, but my issue is an 8 yr old who thinks she is a teen. *sigh*

  3. Author

    Your post is so honest. And I almost choked I was laughing so hard. I have had those moments…. And not just about kids. Loved your post and I look forward to reading more.

    1. Author

      Thanks very much. I’m not sure everyone gets my dry sarcastic sense of humor. Nice to know you do! ?

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  6. Author

    I seriously do this as well. I’m not proud of it but the kids listen a bit more. I really think they like to get the attention I give them when I get mad HA! Idk. But goodness, I can completely relate to this.

    1. Author

      Thanks Hannah. I often feel like the worst mom shortly afterwards but it’s like they just don’t hear me unless I yell! It’s so exhausting! ?

  7. Author

    Oh I’ve been there. I yelled more when my boys were younger but I still have to yell sometimes in order to get them to pick up after themselves or help me around the house. It isn’t often but it does happen. They know that when I yell, I mean business. It happens to the best of us. You’re not alone in this;)

  8. Author

    Oh my goodness!! I yell all the time like a crazy woman!! My kids only listen where I yell, and straight after I’ve yelled, I feel like a bad mom! Because at time I scream so loud that it feels like my face is going to explode! I think the neighbours are now used to my yelling…they must think I’m the worst mom on the planet. I know this is an old blog post, but just had to read it! Thanks again for your honesty! Wish I can meet you and have a bottle of wine…or 2 with you…would be awesome!

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